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Sunday, May 11, 2014

Labeling


Labeling is a kind of jumping to conclusions in which we apply a negative term to a complex person or event. It often also entails overgeneralization because we tend to label all the members of a group with the characteristics we may have seen in some. Often its most damaging form is self-labeling. We all do it. If someone who has just met you asks you who you are or what you do, you are likely to respond by labeling yourself: "I'm a student," or "I'm an electrician," or "I'm a history major." Such labels always leave out much more than they include. But if we take them with a grain of salt they probably don't do much harm. What does a lot of harm is an evaluative label we apply based on past experience. A lot of students have told me, "I'm a poor English student," or "English is my worst subject." But as far as I can tell, good students are as likely to label themselves in this way as poor ones. So I conclude that these students have labeled themselves on the basis of weak evidence. When I question such students I usually find that the fact behind a label such as "I'm a poor English student" is something like "I got a D in the grammar portion of 10th grade English" or "I didn't like the books we read in high school literature classes."
A student once told me at the very beginning of the semester that he was a lousy writer. I asked him what he'd written. He said that he'd never written anything longer than a paragraph in high school. I asked him how he could possibly know he was lousy at something he'd never really attempted seriously. He said that he "just knew." He had labeled himself for no very good reason. But once a negative label becomes an automatic thought it can easily act as a self-fulfilling prophecy. Nobody likes to spend time doing what he or she is not good at. So if you've labeled yourself as "dumb" or a "bad student" or "no good at English/math/history/geography/biology" you will expect to do poorly in it, and you probably will.

Labeling others can be as damaging as labeling ourselves. Labeling reinforces stereotypes about groups of people and, in general, encourages us to say and do stupid things. I am amazed at the speed with which many students label a book "boring" and then proceed as if that single vague label were all that could be said about the text in question.

The negative labels we apply to ourselves and others in our automatic thoughts are almost always vague and ambiguous because they are automatic. If you try to write an essay from your automatic thoughts--you may think of them as your "opinions"--you will find that it consists of nothing more than a string of labels. If you are going to write well about your opinions, you will have to bring them beyond the stage of automatic thoughts and give reasons for those opinions that make sense to other people. In order to do that, you'll have to define the labels you're using. If you can define your terms clearly and give evidence for your beliefs, then you have gone beyond automatic labeling and begun to engage in reasoned argument.

One form of labeling is so widespread in this business that it deserves brief mention on its own. It's called grading. Grades may or may not be necessary, but they can unquestionably do a great deal of damage if we take them too seriously. Letter grades are horribly vague and imprecise. If you doubt that, you can easily disprove it: Stop right now and write down a clear, precise, and universally applicable definition of an "A" that will allow us to tell whether a piece of work is worthy of an "A" without knowing who the teacher is or who the student is. Can't do it. That's because letter grades mean vastly different things to different people. At best, letter grades are a very rough code for a very general evaluation of a student's performance. They never answer the most important questions a student needs to ask: What did I do well? Where could I improve? Have I achieved my own goals in this course? How can I build on what I've learned? What can I do now that I couldn't do before? How can I be a more effective learner? A student who receives an "F" and knows the answers to some of these questions is better off than one who gets an "A" and never asks them. The label is an abstraction. It is never as important as the more complex reality it stands for. If we allow the label to become all important, so that we ignore the reality it is supposed to stand for, then we have yielded to this cognitive distortion in a way that seems to me to resemble the thinking of people who are seriously mentally ill. G. K. Chesterton, writing many years before the development of cognitive therapy, said that "madness is a preference for the symbol over that which it represents"(11).




Friday, November 30, 2012

10 Life-Enhancing Things You Can Do in Ten Minutes or Less

It usually takes us much longer to change our moods than we’d like it to take. Here are ten things you can do in ten minutes or less that will have a positive emotional effect on you and those you love.

1.    Watch "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch. See it online at Oprah.com. This is a deeply moving segment that may be the best ten minutes you've ever invested in front of a computer.

2.    Spend a little while watching the sunset with your mate. Nothing extra is necessary. Just sit and take in the natural beauty of the sky and appreciate being able to share it with the one you love.

3.    Sit quietly by yourself. It doesn't really matter where or when. Just let your feelings bubble up and then experience the thoughts flowing out of your mind. Clearing your head and heart will give you extra energy to get through the rest of the day.

4.    Write a thank you note to your mate. When was the last time you thanked your partner for just being who he or she is and being with you? Doing this in writing will give your partner something to cherish for the rest of his or her life.

5.    Take out your oldest family photo album and look through it. The experience will fill you with fond memories and perhaps make you a bit wistful for days gone by.

6.    Play with a child. Most kids have short attention spans; ten minutes of quality time from a loving adult can make their day. It will also help you stay in touch with the child inside of you.

7.    Visualize or imagine a positive outcome for any issue. Medical doctors recommend visualization to patients with chronic and potentially fatal illnesses. If it can help them, it can do the same for you. 

8.    Go to bed with the one you love ten minutes earlier than usual. Then spend that time just holding each other. Let the feeling of warmth from your mate move through you.

9.    Hang out by some water. Studies show that hospital patients who can see a natural body of water from their beds get better at a 30 percent faster rate. If you're not near the coast or a lake, try taking a bath. Doing so is also healing.

10.  Get your body moving. Shake, twist, and jump around. Let yourself feel the joy of moving to your favorite music, or just the sounds in your head. Run, walk, and bike to your hearts content. You will live longer and love it more.

Sadly, many people measure happiness by how long the experience lasts. The truth is that a few minutes of joy here and there can make a big difference in what you get out of life.

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